A male colleague once had a picture of himself and his wife,on top of a motor bike, as his display picture on one of the social networks. People commented on his wife’s figure (even after two children) and he just laughed and shook his head. That reaction prompted series of questions directed at him (like arrows). He raised concern that his ‘lovely’ wife was putting on weight and he didn’t know the best way to address it with her.So he figured the best to do was put up a picture of how she used to be, hoping that will pass the message he had always wanted to get across to her. He didn’t know how best to tell her about working out to lose some weight without her feeling’sensitive’ and ‘touchy’ about it.
Most of the married men present admitted they were in the same dilemma with addressing certain issues with their wives. Some lady colleagues felt most women put on weight as a result of hormonal changes with child birth and as such, men should never tell their wives about weight issues. Of course the conversation turned to a ‘boxing ring’ with males versus females stating their view points.
I left there pondering….
- Is marriage a competition or partnership?
- What has happened to openness and ease of communication in relationships?
- What is wrong with a husband telling his wife an obvious truth (If said in a courteous manner?
- Does he not want the best for her and ultimately them?
I’ve also heard women complain their husbands don’t talk to them; they only pass instructions when they need something. Could it be that ladies terming open conversation ‘sensitive’ and ‘touchy’ has made men ‘silent’ in the homes?
Ladies, don’t push the man to a ‘silent’ mode! Create that atmosphere that enables transparency and warmth. We should not allow emotions come in the way of the joy-filled relationships we all long for. The truth is bitter but at the end it is sweet. ……just pause and ponder!!!
The right one will pray, plan, prepare and build with you. The right one will listen to your dreams and dream with you. With the right one you are ‘you’, you don’t have be fake
There’s a gap—no matter how small—between yearning and sin, desire and giving in. Such desires should trigger a prayer in you, to draw you closer to God in fellowship.
Sometimes people pressure you to get married, this is one of the pressures that comes with being single. Don’t get angry, it is only a phase. Work, plan, pray, towards the next phase of life .
Have you ever wondered why you were born a woman? The woman is the essence of creation because before she was made. Finding purpose is a universal heart cry.
Your marriage is unique to you and your spouse. No one should tell you how to live out your home. You have to figure it out yourself, aligning with God’s word; however you need the ‘YOU’ factor.
God’s created plan for a woman is a spectacular and phenomenal being. For she knows her exquisiteness lies not in her skin, hair, figure or attire but in the treasures of her Spirit.
Marriage is a home; a refuge against the outside storms. And like any house, it requires a strong, lasting foundation. If tended to, it will thrive, but if neglected, it will wither and die.