I wish there was a perfect answer to this question. The truth is: If you have been praying and preparing yourself, you will know. There will be signs; you will have peace in your heart. There will be answers to questions and everything will begin to fall in place.
The right one will not take you away from God, your calling and purpose. If you are beginning to feel lost and far from God and his purpose for your life, you are not with the right one. The right one will not make you feel inferior but will make you feel like you can fly and accomplish great things; will spur you on to more than you are.
The right one will understand that marriage is for a purpose and so will seek to find and fulfil that purpose with you. The right one will respect your spirit, soul and BODY; will not rob you of your ‘pride and dignity’ and make you sin against God. John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”
The right one will pray, plan, prepare and build with you. The right one will listen to your dreams and dream with you. With the right one you are ‘you’, you don’t have be fake. He/she loves you for YOU. If you are constantly on your toes, not sure what he/she will complain about next, then you are not with the right person. Life is hard enough as it is, why complicate it some more?
The right one will celebrate you and not keep you a secret!!! How does that even work? When you truly love someone, you want to talk to them all the time, be around them and share things with them. How can he/she not be proud of you?
The right one will give his/her time, money, attention and will want to share everything. If he/she only wants to take and take and take….then that is Not THE ONE. John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he GAVE his only son….”
May God help us be and find the right ONE!