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Desire for intimacy

Desire for intimacy

For a single lady, who is matured for marriage, there are times when you feel like having ‘this special person’ in your life to pamper you and make you feel like a ‘woman’. Like it or not, think healthily about it or not, pray against it or not—this desire for intimacy happens even to the most pure-minded. What do you do when it pays its impromptu visit?

  • Look for a ‘so-called harmless’ chat partner on social media?
  • Indulge in thought only?
  • Deny it’s there?
  • Hate yourself?
  • Eat chocolate?

I am not of the opinion that these desires should be denied, they should be ordered rightly. There’s a gap—no matter how small—between yearning and sin, desire and giving in. It is in that moment that we get to choose what our actions would be. We can choose to follow our urges head-long or look for a ‘way of escape’. Such desires should trigger a prayer in you, to draw you closer to God in fellowship. You can also read the Word of God or talk to your Pastor or a friend you respect about it.

 

This is not a formula, as it may not work for everyone at all times but we should always flee temptation by whatever means work best for us.

Desire for intimacy

Desire for intimacy

There’s a gap—no matter how small—between yearning and sin, desire and giving in. Such desires should trigger a prayer in you, to draw you closer to God in fellowship.

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Questions in my heart

Questions in my heart

How do I deal with the pressures of singlehood?

There are pressures with every stage of life, howbeit different but present. They can be internal (self-inflicted) or external (from peers, parents, family, friends, church folks, society etc.) Pressure isn’t in itself bad; our response to pressure on the other hand could be bad. Pressure makes you uncomfortable; you chose to respond positively or not.

External pressure could come out of love and concern while some people just want to make you do wrong; knowing the difference is key. Peers that tell you to live outside God’s will are certainly leading you astray. Defiling your body will not give you a happy home, living above your means to prove a point will only leave you very broke. Any friend, relationship that is not adding positively to your life, you must run away from.  You can’t afford to waste your time, talent and resources on things/people that are going nowhere.

Sometimes people pressure you to get married, this is one of the pressures that comes with being single.  Don’t get angry, it is only a phase. Instead, see it as a motivation to prepare for the next phase. But by no means let it become a burden. Work, plan, pray, towards the next phase of life but don’t stop living because you want to get married.

I think the most concerning of pressures is the internal pressure. You begin to question; why am I not yet married? Are I not good enough? What is wrong with me? Desperation begins to set in. You start to see every person as a potential spouse, you only pray, talk, dream and think about getting married, it becomes a mission instead of what God originally intended for it to be; to fulfil purpose. Then you start making mistakes, entering into relationships you had no business entering into in the first place. Some people even start getting depressed. MARRIAGE IS NOT THE ULTUMATE IN LIFE!!!

Do not allow the pressure within to win. When you have that urge, just know that you are ready but you must not let it take over and overwhelm you.  Don’t be pressured by everyone getting married. Your journey is different. Rejoice and be happy for those that are getting married knowing that your day of celebration will come but most importantly, you want to get it right! Forever is too long to be unhappy.

Desire for intimacy

Desire for intimacy

There’s a gap—no matter how small—between yearning and sin, desire and giving in. Such desires should trigger a prayer in you, to draw you closer to God in fellowship.

read more
Questions in my heart

Questions in my heart

Sometimes people pressure you to get married, this is one of the pressures that comes with being single. Don’t get angry, it is only a phase. Work, plan, pray, towards the next phase of life .

read more
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A Woman of Purpose

Have you ever wondered why you were born a woman? The woman is the essence of creation because before she was made. Finding purpose is a universal heart cry.

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Pause and Ponder

Most of the married men present admitted they were in the same dilemma with addressing certain issues with their wives. Of course the conversation turned to a ‘boxing ring’.

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A Woman of Purpose

A Woman of Purpose

Purpose is defined as the reason for which something is done or created, or for which something exists. For Christians, our ultimate purpose is to have a meaningful relationship with God; being and doing what God intends us to be and do.  And beyond that, God has specific things for us to accomplish. Have you ever wondered why you were born a woman? The woman is the essence of creation because before she was made, God saw “it was not good for man to be alone”. Once she showed up on the scene, there was completeness.

Finding purpose is a universal heart cry; don’t ever feel you are alone in longing for a life that has significance. We need to discover and live out God’s purpose for our lives. Fulfilling our purpose gives glory to God and releases us from the captivity of hopelessness and despair.

To discover our more unique life purpose, we should pray for God to reveal it and clear away any mental or emotional clouds that block us from his revelation.  Find what you are comfortable doing and get complete enjoyment in, even if nobody noticed you. If God has a purpose for us, why do we often feel as though we’re simply going through the motions of living?

Desire for intimacy

Desire for intimacy

There’s a gap—no matter how small—between yearning and sin, desire and giving in. Such desires should trigger a prayer in you, to draw you closer to God in fellowship.

read more
Questions in my heart

Questions in my heart

Sometimes people pressure you to get married, this is one of the pressures that comes with being single. Don’t get angry, it is only a phase. Work, plan, pray, towards the next phase of life .

read more
A Woman of Purpose

A Woman of Purpose

Have you ever wondered why you were born a woman? The woman is the essence of creation because before she was made. Finding purpose is a universal heart cry.

read more
Pause and Ponder

Pause and Ponder

Most of the married men present admitted they were in the same dilemma with addressing certain issues with their wives. Of course the conversation turned to a ‘boxing ring’.

read more
Be a woman

Be a woman

God’s created plan for a woman is a spectacular and phenomenal being. For she knows her exquisiteness lies not in her skin, hair, figure or attire but in the treasures of her Spirit.

read more

Don't leave yet!

Pause and Ponder

Pause and Ponder

A male colleague once had a picture of himself and his wife,on top of a motor bike, as his display picture on one of the social networks. People commented on his wife’s figure (even after two children) and he just laughed and shook his head. That reaction prompted series of questions directed at him (like arrows). He raised concern that his ‘lovely’ wife was putting on weight and he didn’t know the best way to address it with her.So he figured the best to do was put up a picture of how she used to be, hoping that will pass the message he had always wanted to get across to her. He didn’t know how best to tell her about working out to lose some weight without her feeling’sensitive’ and ‘touchy’ about it.

Most of the married men present admitted they were in the same dilemma with addressing certain issues with their wives. Some lady colleagues felt most women put on weight as a result of hormonal changes with child birth and as such, men should never tell their wives about weight issues. Of course the conversation turned to a ‘boxing ring’ with males versus females stating their view points.

I left there pondering….

  • Is marriage a competition or partnership?
  • What  has  happened to  openness and ease of communication in relationships?
  • What is wrong with a husband telling his wife an obvious truth (If said in a courteous manner?
  • Does  he  not  want  the  best  for  her  and ultimately them?

 

I’ve also heard women complain their husbands don’t talk to them; they only pass instructions when they need something. Could it be that ladies terming open conversation ‘sensitive’ and ‘touchy’ has made men ‘silent’ in the homes?

Ladies, don’t push the man to a ‘silent’ mode! Create that atmosphere that enables transparency and warmth. We should not allow emotions come in the way of the joy-filled relationships we all long for. The truth is bitter but at the end it is sweet. ……just pause and ponder!!!

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Desire for intimacy

Desire for intimacy

There’s a gap—no matter how small—between yearning and sin, desire and giving in. Such desires should trigger a prayer in you, to draw you closer to God in fellowship.

read more
Questions in my heart

Questions in my heart

Sometimes people pressure you to get married, this is one of the pressures that comes with being single. Don’t get angry, it is only a phase. Work, plan, pray, towards the next phase of life .

read more
A Woman of Purpose

A Woman of Purpose

Have you ever wondered why you were born a woman? The woman is the essence of creation because before she was made. Finding purpose is a universal heart cry.

read more
Pause and Ponder

Pause and Ponder

Most of the married men present admitted they were in the same dilemma with addressing certain issues with their wives. Of course the conversation turned to a ‘boxing ring’.

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Be a woman

Be a woman

Gloryland Woman

BE A WOMAN!

Woman, Lady, Female, Miss, Mrs., or Madam, whatever you title yourself to be you are a woman or are you?  What is the true meaning of a woman?  What is she created to be?  What are her true qualities and characteristics.

God’s created plan for a woman is a spectacular and phenomenal being.  She is filled with inner beauty and grace.  For she knows her exquisiteness lies not in her skin, hair, figure or attire but in the treasures of her Spirit.  She is as her creator, wise, glorious, gentle yet powerful.  She is illuminated with splendor and vivaciousness.  Her elegance is so soft and mesmerizing.  Her spirit is quiet whispering the echoes of submission and humility.  She is pliable in the strong hands of her God, to his most Holy will.  She serves willingly gleaming with cheer.  She embraces her vulnerability, trusting that her Savior is sovereign to care and protect.  Her meekness is savored as the sweet juices from a ripe fruit, for she understands her strength and power but discreetly and wisely relies on the Holy Spirit to lead her.  She burns the light in her soul with all truth and modesty driven to please her God.  She disciplines her tongue to pour out fresh living waters to dry and parched souls of this world.  Her words are harmonious melodies filled with encouragement, truth, and grace.  She builds only up, defying the paths that lead to destruction.  A woman, a lady, a wife and a mother, she is created to multiply and add life to this world.  She is free to be herself, twirling, and spinning in this dance of life with the fruit of the Spirit manifested in her every move.  Softly, quietly, gracefully she bows in her heart yielding to every command of her Lord.

Are you embracing being a woman?  Do you like the God-given creation that is woven inside of you?  Do you strive for the softness and femininity and quietness of the soul and the yielded spirit that says yes to her Lord’s will?  Be a woman, do not look like one or dress like one but be a woman of God in every aspect of your life.